As we entered Islam, we didn't think about the law of this land, but we should know that the laws of this land don't recognize Islamic marriages even if you get it notarized. It's sad, but true and women should know the pit falls of Islamic marriages.
If you have a child/children by a brother, and he has not establish paternity in court or by signing papers at the hospital your child will have on the birth certificate unknown. Year ago, you could put what the father name is, and that would be accepted,but not know because many women have messed up and have lied to many men that he was the father,and later on the man found out differently, so they changed the laws.
If you're a sister with just a Islamic marriage you're in a bad position in America because not only will your child have unknown on the birth certificate, if he dies your child can't get any social security death benefits. If your husband has a good job you or your children can't get no medical coverage it's like you're nobody in country only in the eyes of Islam you're the wife.
Many sisters don't know the big lost they will take in spending years in a marriage ,and can't get nothing, but most brothers don't care because when it's time to divorce you it will be quick and easy, so he don't have to worry about having nothing with you but memories. This is something to think about.
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Even in the Middle East someone "registers" your marriage from the courts. So it is in Muslims in America's best interest to walk their butts down to the court house, have their muslim witnesses and get it down right.
ReplyDeleteSo many people just want these quikie drive thru marriages and a few months later are divorced after they are down screwing around. Muslims need some serious marriage counseling and talk before they just jump into marriage.
hey halimah asalam alaykum its alishdah/yasmine. here on the west coast it has been that way over 5 years now. my ex had to sign it in the hospital as we had no legal marriage. but if the bro dont get on it even if he is it will be blank ran into that with my second one. didnt get to the hospital b4 they sent it off so guess what my 3 year old says unknown. but alhumdulillah my hubby got annoyed by me telling him you cant be putting me on things if we not legal i dont want to get hit with tax fraud. and sure enough he took me to the department of records and got the paper and 4 days later my mom got us into a chapel and got it done. so my youngest had daddys name on hers no prob no extra papers to fill out and so on. bet thing for women to do is get it done. there is nothing that says you cant have it on paper. and since it is only needed to have 2 witnesses and the oficiator hey not hrad to do
ReplyDeletefind an imam that does the legal marriages and bring the wali and the witnesses and ur done end of story not a whole lot of extra things and get the walimah going