Legal Marriage Vs Islamic Marriage

As we entered Islam, we didn't think about the law of this land, but we should know that the laws of this land don't recognize Islamic marriages even if you get it notarized. It's sad, but true and women should know the pit falls of Islamic marriages.

If you have a child/children by a brother, and he has not establish paternity in court or by signing papers at the hospital your child will have on the birth certificate unknown. Year ago, you could put what the father name is, and that would be accepted,but not know because many women have messed up and have lied to many men that he was the father,and later on the man found out differently, so they changed the laws.

If you're a sister with just a Islamic marriage you're in a bad position in America because not only will your child have unknown on the birth certificate, if he dies your child can't get any social security death benefits. If your husband has a good job you or your children can't get no medical coverage it's like you're nobody in country only in the eyes of Islam you're the wife.

Many sisters don't know the big lost they will take in spending years in a marriage ,and can't get nothing, but most brothers don't care because when it's time to divorce you it will be quick and easy, so he don't have to worry about having nothing with you but memories. This is something to think about.

Just living in the moment

Sad to say, some people are just living in the moment. Some don't even want nothing for themselves, all they read in the holy quran that the man is the maintainer and provider, and they just live life like that is how it really is suppose to be. It's time to do something for yourself, go to work or school. Don't wait for your husband to hint around to you that you need a job. That is something you should want for yourself.

It's time to stop sitting home claiming you're being a good house wife, and a mother to your children. You know them children are school age, and don't need you much, but women tend to make up excusing for just being a bum in life.

I believe this is the reason why Muslim men marry christian women , so they don't have to do everything for them, and they see how successful alot are in this world, and they don't have the pressure of doing everything for them, or just living a miserable life of poverty. Islam doesn't say you have to be poor or make you feel like you shouldn't be doing nothing with your life.

Section 8 Hunters in the Community.

I thought it was only going on here in Philadelphia, but it's happen all over the states, brothers looking for sisters with low income housing,and a few children they can just live off. It makes no sense to have this kind of man around, why so he can eat the children's food up,and live off of you for nothing, and the sad part you sit down and allow him to go get another wife ,and family on you. Know your self esteem is at it's lowest. In Islam the man is suppose to be the maintainer and provider not the U.S Government.

I mean brothers are just pimping sisters,and who is the blame yourself. It's time to stop being used and know your worth, Please use your brains that Allah (swt) have giving you it's good to be humble but not weak. If you was no fool in the dunya don't wait to get to Islam to fall for it. Do you think the Queens of Africa or the Prophet wives will go for these kinds of men like this? Brothers claim they want to be like our beloved Prophet Muhammad peace blessing upon him. I think it's a joke and a false allusion that some men just say to lure the sisters in.

Mary Poppins after Islam

Sisters, we must stop allowing ourselves to look any kind of way when we have a husband. Just because you entered Islam, and want to be a pious muslimah, that doesn't mean go to bed looking any kind of why for your husband. You must fix your hair up, put the children to sleep and for the sake of Allah clean your house because a man can be turned off by that.

Don't blame him when he start looking around outside for another sister to peak his intrest. I know alot of sisters go Thur depression because of relationship issues, but don't just let yourself go, be the same vibrant women you was before he knew your name. We take sometimes being married for granted. Like I have my husband and end of story, but we want to see the same sparkle in his eye that we use to see, and preserve the same feeling of his touch. If not just hand him over to the next sister because you are so done.