As we entered Islam, we didn't think about the law of this land, but we should know that the laws of this land don't recognize Islamic marriages even if you get it notarized. It's sad, but true and women should know the pit falls of Islamic marriages.
If you have a child/children by a brother, and he has not establish paternity in court or by signing papers at the hospital your child will have on the birth certificate unknown. Year ago, you could put what the father name is, and that would be accepted,but not know because many women have messed up and have lied to many men that he was the father,and later on the man found out differently, so they changed the laws.
If you're a sister with just a Islamic marriage you're in a bad position in America because not only will your child have unknown on the birth certificate, if he dies your child can't get any social security death benefits. If your husband has a good job you or your children can't get no medical coverage it's like you're nobody in country only in the eyes of Islam you're the wife.
Many sisters don't know the big lost they will take in spending years in a marriage ,and can't get nothing, but most brothers don't care because when it's time to divorce you it will be quick and easy, so he don't have to worry about having nothing with you but memories. This is something to think about.
Monday, March 1, 2010
Just living in the moment
Sad to say, some people are just living in the moment. Some don't even want nothing for themselves, all they read in the holy quran that the man is the maintainer and provider, and they just live life like that is how it really is suppose to be. It's time to do something for yourself, go to work or school. Don't wait for your husband to hint around to you that you need a job. That is something you should want for yourself.
It's time to stop sitting home claiming you're being a good house wife, and a mother to your children. You know them children are school age, and don't need you much, but women tend to make up excusing for just being a bum in life.
I believe this is the reason why Muslim men marry christian women , so they don't have to do everything for them, and they see how successful alot are in this world, and they don't have the pressure of doing everything for them, or just living a miserable life of poverty. Islam doesn't say you have to be poor or make you feel like you shouldn't be doing nothing with your life.
It's time to stop sitting home claiming you're being a good house wife, and a mother to your children. You know them children are school age, and don't need you much, but women tend to make up excusing for just being a bum in life.
I believe this is the reason why Muslim men marry christian women , so they don't have to do everything for them, and they see how successful alot are in this world, and they don't have the pressure of doing everything for them, or just living a miserable life of poverty. Islam doesn't say you have to be poor or make you feel like you shouldn't be doing nothing with your life.
Section 8 Hunters in the Community.
I thought it was only going on here in Philadelphia, but it's happen all over the states, brothers looking for sisters with low income housing,and a few children they can just live off. It makes no sense to have this kind of man around, why so he can eat the children's food up,and live off of you for nothing, and the sad part you sit down and allow him to go get another wife ,and family on you. Know your self esteem is at it's lowest. In Islam the man is suppose to be the maintainer and provider not the U.S Government.
I mean brothers are just pimping sisters,and who is the blame yourself. It's time to stop being used and know your worth, Please use your brains that Allah (swt) have giving you it's good to be humble but not weak. If you was no fool in the dunya don't wait to get to Islam to fall for it. Do you think the Queens of Africa or the Prophet wives will go for these kinds of men like this? Brothers claim they want to be like our beloved Prophet Muhammad peace blessing upon him. I think it's a joke and a false allusion that some men just say to lure the sisters in.
I mean brothers are just pimping sisters,and who is the blame yourself. It's time to stop being used and know your worth, Please use your brains that Allah (swt) have giving you it's good to be humble but not weak. If you was no fool in the dunya don't wait to get to Islam to fall for it. Do you think the Queens of Africa or the Prophet wives will go for these kinds of men like this? Brothers claim they want to be like our beloved Prophet Muhammad peace blessing upon him. I think it's a joke and a false allusion that some men just say to lure the sisters in.
Mary Poppins after Islam
Sisters, we must stop allowing ourselves to look any kind of way when we have a husband. Just because you entered Islam, and want to be a pious muslimah, that doesn't mean go to bed looking any kind of why for your husband. You must fix your hair up, put the children to sleep and for the sake of Allah clean your house because a man can be turned off by that.
Don't blame him when he start looking around outside for another sister to peak his intrest. I know alot of sisters go Thur depression because of relationship issues, but don't just let yourself go, be the same vibrant women you was before he knew your name. We take sometimes being married for granted. Like I have my husband and end of story, but we want to see the same sparkle in his eye that we use to see, and preserve the same feeling of his touch. If not just hand him over to the next sister because you are so done.
Don't blame him when he start looking around outside for another sister to peak his intrest. I know alot of sisters go Thur depression because of relationship issues, but don't just let yourself go, be the same vibrant women you was before he knew your name. We take sometimes being married for granted. Like I have my husband and end of story, but we want to see the same sparkle in his eye that we use to see, and preserve the same feeling of his touch. If not just hand him over to the next sister because you are so done.
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Is Home school really for your child?
I don't understand why some people home school. Some are just unorganized,and really want to follow behind others. How can you home school ,and you have a bunch of other small children at home needing your attention. Lets not forget everyday like of cooking, shopping etc. Is it fair to the child that some get out of bed at 12pm to start a lesson? Lets not forget the social life that all children need to grow,and to be able to converse with other children of age group.
Lets face it how many parents even have a high school diploma or a degree. The older the child gets the harder the lesson will becomes. so if a parent have not went far in school, it will defeat the purpose, and the child will eventually fall behind on reading level, math and academics. We can't hide our children from the outside world because we are afraid they will not be Muslims ,and have this idea that other children will have a influence on they way they think or act. Allah swt makes muslims and nobody can lead you astray. How will our muslim children be competitive in this world with other children that have social skills, and a better education.
We never know what may happen in life we can get sick or we may need to go out to work, and if your child only know the walls of your home they will be throw into shock if they have to go out to the real world of school. If our children are secure in their religion no one can lead them astray. They also have a chance to give dawa about Islam to others.
Lets face it how many parents even have a high school diploma or a degree. The older the child gets the harder the lesson will becomes. so if a parent have not went far in school, it will defeat the purpose, and the child will eventually fall behind on reading level, math and academics. We can't hide our children from the outside world because we are afraid they will not be Muslims ,and have this idea that other children will have a influence on they way they think or act. Allah swt makes muslims and nobody can lead you astray. How will our muslim children be competitive in this world with other children that have social skills, and a better education.
We never know what may happen in life we can get sick or we may need to go out to work, and if your child only know the walls of your home they will be throw into shock if they have to go out to the real world of school. If our children are secure in their religion no one can lead them astray. They also have a chance to give dawa about Islam to others.
Friday, February 19, 2010
Does Deen over Dunya Show help the Community?
Does the Deen over Dunya Show help the community? The show backbite other masjids, and complain about what is going on , but have they came up with a solutions for our problems that sisters face in our daily lives? I find the host to be arrogant, loud and argumentative toward the callers, and why when a sister calls his first question is " Sister are you married" like what does your question or comment have to do with it.
Let me tell you the solutions to the problem. I suggest a "Shariah Court" be set-up and each masjid consist of four brothers one should be the Imam. A brother with moral, family values, good character,and knowledgeable in Islam law. They should investigate brothers before marry a sister, and this should be done as a team with the walkil. Things should be investigated; the brothers finances, criminal background, child abuse, and find out how many times he been married, HIV test, and family background. If a sister chose not to follow the rules of the masjid the Iman should have the right not to marry them, and the walkil can step down. We need rules in the community, and we should follow them. Just because a brother or sister looks good we cannot over look what is beneath the skin (the heart) or the intentions. We have to many trying to be friends of each other ,and letting the brothers get away free from responsibility.
Let me tell you the solutions to the problem. I suggest a "Shariah Court" be set-up and each masjid consist of four brothers one should be the Imam. A brother with moral, family values, good character,and knowledgeable in Islam law. They should investigate brothers before marry a sister, and this should be done as a team with the walkil. Things should be investigated; the brothers finances, criminal background, child abuse, and find out how many times he been married, HIV test, and family background. If a sister chose not to follow the rules of the masjid the Iman should have the right not to marry them, and the walkil can step down. We need rules in the community, and we should follow them. Just because a brother or sister looks good we cannot over look what is beneath the skin (the heart) or the intentions. We have to many trying to be friends of each other ,and letting the brothers get away free from responsibility.
The Plogamy Plot In The Community
As saalam alkium, Maybe at one time before Islam you was thriving as a independent sisters, going to school, working ,and had real goals in life, but you was missing one things in your life a husband to share your life with ,and Al-Islam. The true religion that saved you from the hell fire, and made sense this was the true religion that can lead you in the right direction.
After awhile, of becoming humble, submissive to your husband, and his rights you became another woman. You had to accept polygamy in your life that was not accepted in Christianity or in your family history. You was taught one man one woman. Know in Islam you found out it's the mans rights to get another wife. Having a co wife enter into your marriage, how did it make you feel as a woman? Did your self-esteem or self worth get better or worse? Please share your thoughts.
After awhile, of becoming humble, submissive to your husband, and his rights you became another woman. You had to accept polygamy in your life that was not accepted in Christianity or in your family history. You was taught one man one woman. Know in Islam you found out it's the mans rights to get another wife. Having a co wife enter into your marriage, how did it make you feel as a woman? Did your self-esteem or self worth get better or worse? Please share your thoughts.
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